A few days before Z was born
V was over 6 weeks old when someone asked me when I was due. It happened twice more over the next fortnight. I wasn't that surprised. After all, I was still in maternity clothes and looked pretty much identical to when I was 3 months pregnant. Without V in my arms, it would be perfectly reasonable to think I was in my first trimester. Recently I read about Mama Spanx Maternity Tights, - designed to 'smooth and firm up your hips, thighs and bum' during pregnancy. Then I discovered buggy fitness classes to help Mums get back into shape. These two things, together with the endless pictures of celebrities in bikinis a few weeks after giving birth bothered me. The subtext is that during pregnancy and after giving birth our bodies should be thin, thin, thin. V is now 7 months and I'm still not into my pre-pregnancy clothes. It doesn't worry me a bit, but it has taken me 3 babies to get to the point where I recognise that hanging onto that extra baby weight for a few months is not just perfectly OK, it's normal. I eat healthily and walk everywhere. I'm a pretty average weight and I don't have any body issues to speak off. I view myself as 'normal'. But it angers me that there's still no escape from this pressure to be thin. All these classes and body-sculpting garments aren't solving a problem, they're creating the problem. So, this is a counter to all that. I want to celebrate the wonder of our post-baby bodies in all their glorious wobblidom! This is your 'off-games' note. Don't feel you have to undertake any form of weight-loss activity. Don't join a gym. Enjoy the first months with your baby without casting a critical eye on your thighs, tummy or anywhere else. Get some sleep if you can. Eat biscuits if it brightens up your day. And if someone asks you when you're due don't be offended, just remember that you're definitely not alone, and for all its imperfections your body has just created something amazing, wonderful and unique.